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Vlastn\u011b […]","datePublished":"2019-12-12","dateModified":"2023-05-15","author":{"@type":"Person","@id":"https:\/\/www.czis.cz\/author\/devene\/#Person","name":"devene","url":"https:\/\/www.czis.cz\/author\/devene\/","identifier":1,"image":{"@type":"ImageObject","@id":"https:\/\/secure.gravatar.com\/avatar\/4c8347e48acde4b8838164e4b1c9b1c2409c44aff1922a8b9d7dd631b9ae52bb?s=96&d=mm&r=g","url":"https:\/\/secure.gravatar.com\/avatar\/4c8347e48acde4b8838164e4b1c9b1c2409c44aff1922a8b9d7dd631b9ae52bb?s=96&d=mm&r=g","height":96,"width":96}},"publisher":{"@type":"Organization","name":"czis.cz","logo":{"@type":"ImageObject","@id":"\/logo.png","url":"\/logo.png","width":600,"height":60}},"image":{"@type":"ImageObject","@id":"https:\/\/www.czis.cz\/wp-content\/uploads\/img_a366000_w4341_t1578586885.jpg","url":"https:\/\/www.czis.cz\/wp-content\/uploads\/img_a366000_w4341_t1578586885.jpg","height":0,"width":0},"url":"https:\/\/www.czis.cz\/jak-je-dulezite-mit-se-rad\/","about":["Vztahy"],"wordCount":547,"articleBody":"Ano, je to pr\u00e1v\u011b sebel\u00e1ska a \u00facta k sob\u011b sam\u00e9mu, ze kter\u00e9 v podstat\u011b vych\u00e1zej\u00ed i na\u0161e ostatn\u00ed vztahy s okol\u00edm. Pr\u00e1v\u011b podoba vztahu, kter\u00fd m\u00e1me sami k sob\u011b, do velk\u00e9 m\u00edry ur\u010duje i vztahy vn\u011bj\u0161\u00ed. Pokud \u010dlov\u011bk trp\u00ed nedostatkem sebel\u00e1sky, nen\u00ed \u0161\u0165astn\u00fd. Neust\u00e1le pochybuje o sob\u011b sam\u00e9m. Jak vypad\u00e1, jak mluv\u00ed, jak jedn\u00e1, co si mysl\u00ed atd. Vlastn\u011b je ztracen v pochybnostech o sob\u011b sam\u00e9m. Jako by se st\u00e1le sna\u017eil, navenek p\u016fsobit tak, jak se m\u00e1, jak mu to n\u011bkdo \u0159ekl. Ale nen\u00ed to jeho p\u0159irozenost a opravdovost. Proto vlastn\u011b trp\u00ed. Ka\u017ed\u00fd jsme jin\u00fd.Ka\u017ed\u00fd v sob\u011b m\u00e1me polaritu. A\u0165 u\u017e tomu budeme \u0159\u00edkat nebe a peklo, jing a jang, \u010dern\u00e1 a b\u00edl\u00e1, po\u0159\u00e1d jde o stejn\u00e9 dv\u011b \u010d\u00e1sti n\u00e1s sam\u00fdch. Sebel\u00e1ska je mimo jin\u00e9 o tom, tyto dv\u011b \u010d\u00e1sti n\u00e1s sam\u00fdch p\u0159ijmout, a bezpodm\u00edne\u010dn\u011b milovat. Pokud se pod\u00edv\u00e1me kolem sebe zjist\u00edme, \u017ee tato polarita se nach\u00e1z\u00ed prakticky ve v\u0161em. Je tedy nutn\u00e9 i svoje temn\u00e9 str\u00e1nky p\u0159ijmout, a nestyd\u011bt se za n\u011b. Jen pokud sami o sob\u011b m\u00e1me ucelen\u00fd obraz, v\u00edme, kdo jsme. Potom n\u00e1m ne\u010din\u00ed probl\u00e9m tak\u00e9 zn\u00e1t, co pot\u0159ebujeme, a p\u0159evz\u00edt za sebe zodpov\u011bdnost.Pokud stoup\u00e1 na\u0161e sebel\u00e1ska, p\u0159irozen\u011b se zlep\u0161uj\u00ed i na\u0161e vztahy s okol\u00edm. V\u00edme u\u017e, kdo jsme a jak se \u0159\u00edk\u00e1, jakou cenu m\u00e1me. Nevstupujeme tak \u010dasto do \u0161patn\u00fdch situac\u00ed, nebo vztah\u016f. Je to zkr\u00e1tka pro to, \u017ee to nedovol\u00edme. Mnohem m\u00e9n\u011b pak d\u011bl\u00e1me v\u011bci, kter\u00e9 jsou n\u00e1m nep\u0159\u00edjemn\u00e9. Ale naopak jsem si v\u011bdomi toho, co n\u00e1s \u010din\u00ed \u0161\u0165astn\u00fdmi, a tak\u00e9 podle toho jedn\u00e1me. A to je pr\u00e1v\u011b ta sebel\u00e1ska. V\u011bdom\u00ed sama sebe, o kter\u00e9m p\u0159esn\u011b v\u00edme, co pot\u0159ebuje a co nikoliv. Potom opravdu sn\u00e1ze vyhodnocujeme vztahy s ostatn\u00edmi. Mnohem l\u00e9pe s lidmi vych\u00e1z\u00edme. Jsme otev\u0159en\u011bj\u0161\u00ed a l\u00e1skypln\u011bj\u0161\u00ed k sob\u011b i ostatn\u00edm. Je t\u0159eba na tom pracovat, a nep\u0159ich\u00e1z\u00ed to ze dne na den. Ka\u017ed\u00fd v sob\u011b m\u00e1me spoustu za\u017eit\u00fdch vzorc\u016f chov\u00e1n\u00ed, kdy nestav\u00edme na prvn\u00ed m\u00edsto sebe a svoje vlastn\u00ed z\u00e1jmy, co\u017e je samoz\u0159ejm\u011b \u0161patn\u011b. Jist\u011b jsou v \u017eivot\u011b situace, kdy je pro n\u00e1s blaho ostatn\u00edch d\u016fle\u017eit\u011bj\u0161\u00ed ne\u017e na\u0161e. Nap\u0159\u00edklad blaho a \u0161t\u011bst\u00ed na\u0161ich d\u011bt\u00ed. To je v po\u0159\u00e1dku. Rozhodn\u011b ale takov\u00e9 situace nesm\u00ed v na\u0161em \u017eivot\u011b p\u0159evl\u00e1dat. Tyhle vzorce se u\u010d\u00edme cel\u00fd \u017eivot, na r\u016fzn\u00fdch m\u00edstech jako je \u0161kola, pr\u00e1ce, ale i vztahy v na\u0161ich rodin\u00e1ch, ze kter\u00fdch jsme vze\u0161li. Je t\u0159eba si tohle uv\u011bdomit, a v\u011bdom\u011b s t\u00edm pracovat. \u00dasp\u011bch je zaru\u010den, pokud k sob\u011b budeme up\u0159\u00edmn\u00ed.                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                 "},{"@context":"https:\/\/schema.org\/","@type":"BreadcrumbList","itemListElement":[{"@type":"ListItem","position":1,"name":"Jak je d\u016fle\u017eit\u00e9, m\u00edt se r\u00e1d","item":"https:\/\/www.czis.cz\/jak-je-dulezite-mit-se-rad\/#breadcrumbitem"}]}]